- self-relationship sets the blueprint for external relationships
- You can only love others as much as you love yourself
- You can only belong as much as you accept yourself
- Until we receive with an open heart, we cannot truly give with one
- We judge others as we judge ourselves
- When we don’t give ourselves permission to be free, we rarely tolerate that freedom in others
- The reverse: feeling loved can facilitate self-love, but only if the person is open to receiving it (unlearn self-rejection)
- NOT ‘treating others by how you want to be treated’
- One-way: value → behavior, rather than ↔︎
- What if you don’t know / don’t treat yourself well
- Self-compassion need to be learned first